EFT
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) developed
by Dr. Sue Johnson.
The principle of Emotionally Focused Therapy is that we are biologically driven to connect and need love, companionship, support and acceptance from our loved ones.
This therapy involves helping partners to identify and break the negative cycle and to replace it with a positive and securely attached relationship.
I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in my new group program for couples; the Relationship Education Program. This program is exclusively based on the book Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson, who I mentioned above as the developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
More information on this program is available in the sidebar.
Why Emotionally Focused Therapy?
The American Psychological Association has endorsed Emotionally Focused Therapy to be the most successful approach, backed by 20 years of research and scientifically proven to create and enhance lasting relationships.
Research studies have demonstrated that other forms of couple therapy are 35% effective in healing relationships, whereas Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy received 86% success rate.
Sociological research indicates that emotional isolation is more dangerous to our health than smoking or high blood pressure. Our society teaches us to be self reliant. To need and be needed by our loved one, to ask for comfort and support implies "weakness." On the contrary, needing to emotionally connect and bond with our loved one, asking and giving comfort and reassurance is a measure of strength and resiliency. Research shows that positive and loving relationships are vital for our physical and mental health.
Neuroscience studies confirm that negative relationships undermine our physical health. The studies demonstrated that loneliness in relationships
-Raises blood pressure and the risk for heart attack and stroke
-Affects our immune systems and our hormonal systems
-Affects our ability to heal and cope with stress.
Research continues to show that marriage fails not because of the presence of conflict in the relationship, but because of the absence of affection, emotional responsiveness and positive intimate interactions. Negative relationships filled with criticism create anxiety, depression, self doubt, and helplessness.
Positive, securely attached relationships provide a safe haven to help us cope from stress, life's challenges, and trauma and these close relationships between partners blossom into healthy, loving, and responsive families.
Emotionally Focused Therapy can help you to form these strong relationships.